Fancy Friends – A Manifesto

Fancy Friends – A Manifesto

Sep 24, 2021

Wondering what to buy to lose weight?  Calling all of you who are fancy over 40.

 

Wondering what to buy to lose weight?

 

I often find clients have something in mind they want to buy to lose weight, but they are afraid to invest in themselves.

After all, it's awfully fancy to buy a membership at a Pilates studio or a Pelaton or to hire a coach, right?

Well, let's look at what it means to be fancy. 

As for me,  I like to think I can fit in anywhere.

I can be casual.

I don't think of myself as a snob.

I aspire to love and respect everyone – even those who don't love and respect me.

 I can lay around in the house in a T-shirt and shorts like the best of them.

But let's be honest… secretly… on the inside… I'm kind of bougie.

I am selective about where it comes out.  I look for value.  I'm not interested in flashy just for the sake of flashy, and I actively dislike fake.

But you know what?  I like nice things.

I think I'm worth it.

Sure, I got roots at a public high school, but I got wings at a private college.

I think I'm worth investing in, and I'm not afraid to sell others on that premise.

That private school paid for half my tuition.

When I took my first job, I negotiated my salary.

When our IT consulting firm takes on clients, we charge A LOT per hour – and then we get a lot done in an hour, and throw in plenty of freebies down the road so the client sees the value and comes back for more.

 I have invested a lot in courses and coaches and mentors to help me learn how to win with money and in business.

And I'm looking for women who are like… SAME GIRL, SAME.

Don't come to me crying about how broke you are if you aren't willing to invest in learning how to handle the money you do have (and to be grateful for it).

Don't be shocked when I tell you my high end private coaching and consulting packages cost thousands of dollars.

Of course they do.

Because I am worth it, and so are you.

You are not a used up husk of a person who used to be hot but now is just a mom whose kids don't even need you any more.

You are a wise woman.  You are a goddess incarnate.  You are in your prime. 

You know who you are, and you are sick of this sh!t. 

You are done of putting everyone else first.

It's time to shine.

I'll teach you how to get back to your “fighting weight”, and as a side effect, you'll learn how to manage your mind so you can go out and conquer the world.

It's not all over.

We are just warming up.

The world needs us in our full power.

So, if your are wondering what to buy to lose weight – perhaps a class pass at a fancy studio, or hiring a me as your coach – my advice is to do do something bougie and luxurious and schedule a free one on one call today.

 

Celebrating = Overeating?

Celebrating = Overeating?

Sep 17, 2021

Overeating is not a requirement of celebration.

 My client Lindsay had a common cultural association between overeating and celebrating.

 

This goes way back, to a time when food was scarce and being able to really eat with abandon would have been very rare.

This was also a time when gluttony was one of the Seven Deadly Sins, so even those few who could afford to overeat all the time had some social and religious pressure not to do so.

Now, if you truly celebrate a few times a year (say, even once a quarter or once a month), you can probably leave that cultural link in place.  It's so infrequent it may not be undermining your ability to lose weight.

 But after coaching with Lindsay for a few months, I noticed she celebrated A LOT.  Like, at least every 7-10 days.

Again, nothing wrong with that. Like Oprah says, live your best life.

But when you are overeating every 7-10 days because you are celebrating every 7-10 days and in your mind celebrating requires overindulging… well, that's going to interfere with your ability to lose weight.

 Once we noticed the pattern and brought it to the light, Lindsay was willing to let go of the story that celebration and overeating had to be linked.  And that's been a big part of her ability to stop overeating and start losing weight.

Are you ready to bring in an outside expert to get some perspective on how your brain and your habits are interfering with your ability to lose weight?  If so, click here to schedule a call and learn more.

 

Maybe You Can’t Lose Weight.

Maybe You Can’t Lose Weight.

Sep 10, 2021

There's a skinny future version of you.  Do you know how to get to her?

 

I sometimes talk to people who secretly believe they can't lose weight.  They are convinced there's something wrong with them. And they are absolutely right.

 

This version of you probably can't lose weight.

This version of you has been gaining a little bit of weight tiny amount by tiny amount for years.

Without a major interruption to the pattern – without a shift to the status quo – this version of you likely will continue doing what you have always done, and therefore will continue getting what you are getting now.

BUT.

While this future version of you (that's just a rinse and repeat version of present you) is the most likely future version of you, it's not the only possible future version of you.

Imagine all these future versions of you in front of you like outfits in your closet.

Quantum possibilities.  They all exist as potentials until we choose.

Which one are you going to step into?

You can absolutely remake yourself on your own for free.  People do it all the time.

But I will tell you as someone who has reinvented herself a few times – it's easier with a mentor.

We went from refinancing the house every few years to pay off the credit cards (and then running the credit cards back up) to a current net worth of over $2,000,000 with a mentor.

I went from a bottle a night wine habit to not drinking at all (and not missing it) with the help of a role model.

I went from overeating (and not believing I was overeating) to eating in a way that fuels my body – and leaves me to deal with my mind and emotions using the non-food tools I now have – with a leader to follow.

You can do it on your own, but it's so much easier to make the choice to switch from your default future to your dream future with a mentor.  And a mindset coach who has done what you want to do makes an excellent mentor, due to not just her experience, but also her ability to show you your mind and where it's getting in the way.

 If you are tired of wasting time and ready for a change, let's work together.

Click here to schedule a call for a free session.