“Everything in my life is working but my weight.”

When I was a kid, we had a spare bedroom that, over time, became the “junk” room.

If any area of the public-facing part of the house was messy and we were expecting visitors, my mom would just grab all the offending items and stick them in that junky spare bedroom.

If we ended up with what we did not want – junk room.

Yesterday I was in a session with a client and she said, “everything in my life is working but my weight.”

It was at the end of the call and kind of flew past me, but it stuck in my head, and here I am still thinking about it 24 hours later.

Why?

Because she believes that it's true, but upon further reflection, I've realize that it absolutely is not true.

I'm not going to go all into her personal business here, but trust me when I say she has some STUFF that she hasn't cleaned up yet.

And that STUFF is making her feel bad.

And then she's eating to make herself feel better, and to distract herself from the discomfort of looking at those areas, and then telling herself her weight is the only issue in her life.

It's like my mom saying the house is clean. It was, except for that one room. 🙂

The chaos of that one area is a catch all for the hidden chaos of the other areas.

For some people, a few easy tweaks are all they need to lose weight.

For this client? She's going to need to be honest about the areas of life that are not working the way she wants and choose to sit in the discomfort of looking at that, instead of eating to cover it up.

It's a hard sell, because it feels awful.

But sitting in the truth is what gives us clarity about what we do not want in those other areas, and the clarity gained from looking at what we do not want reveals what we do want.

So by refusing to put another item in the junk room, we have to be honest that we are just not decorative-wreath people, even though we love the person who gave it to us.

And by refusing to put another junk food item into our mouths, we have to be honest that we are not happy with our job, or a key relationship, or whatever is causing us the pain we've been distracting from with emotional eating or stress eating.

And while that kind of honesty may force us to either shift our thinking or our circumstances, addressing the real problem is the only true solution.

When we start addressing real problems and getting true solutions, over time our lives start to work better, and we start to feel better, and that bowl of ice cream loses some of its appeal.

Weight loss from the inside out.

If you do it differently, it just might change your life.

If this is the kind of work you want to do, I'm here to help. ​https://LisaDuke.net/schedule​ to start.